Friday, July 19, 2013

A self-test to mitigate phone anxiety


There is no doubt that we are addicted to our cell phones. In fact, another study was released last week that says seven in 10 Millennials keep their smartphone within five feet of themselves at all times. Think of how many people sleep with their phones. Or how many apps you receive push notifications for. Or how prevalent text messaging is to our daily lives, compared to what it was 10 years ago.

This past year of grad school, which was probably the most stressful school year of life in some capacities, was the first entire school year where I owned a smartphone. I upgraded to the iPhone a semester earlier, and was starting to adapt to the lifestyle of push notifications, iMessaging group MMS text conversations, email being right there and always being the owner of a GPS. Now, it was engrained into my daily routine. I woke up every morning at nearly 7 a.m. to my phone alarm and read email on my phone, mentally crafted a response, and typed them up on my computer an hour later when I was more awake. If I was making dinner and heard the email vibrate sound on my phone (which I only received from my school account), I immediately stopped and went to check what it was. It was so bad that if the phone rang while I was in the shower, I would get out to answer it so there would not be another item on my to do list to call that person back. I’m not kidding.

All of these habits caused what I think of as phone anxiety. I was anxious to receive answers to texts and emails, watching the “…” typing message or read receipts like a hawk.  When I was driving and the texting sound came through, I immediately had to check what it was and take the proper action, as unsafe as it is.

The noticeable difference in this phone anxiety came when I found my heart rate at a higher and higher rate over the pure sound of my phone. Hearing the vibrate buzz, Twitter ding or text/voicemail ring, my heart rate paced until I saw what the notification was. And rather than being an invigorating, exciting type of stress to see the message, it seemed unhealthy, dangerous and a burden. Societal expectations have placed pressure to respond or take action immediately, growing our impatience on both the sending and receiving end.

So now that school is over and I’m not being called to assistantships, campus activities or academic questions that might require immediate responses more so than other things, I’m trying the experiment of inviting media into my life. Living life first, and consuming mobile media second. By taking the vibrate sound off of my phone, and turning the ringtone off while I’m driving or getting important work done—I’m in control of when I do or don’t want to check what’s going on, hold a text conversation or respond to emails or Facebook messages.

Instead of hearing the ding, moving away from my resting heart rate and getting incredibly anxious, I can CHOOSE when to check and respond to everything. Sure, phones are intended for immediate communication when they ring and we all know how much I like to talk on the phone, but with so many mobile applications and social outlets calling our attention, I don’t want to get so engrained in those that I don’t realize what is going on right in front of me, or what other things I could be doing. I like to think I’ve been doing this for a while by never letting Facebook or Instagram send push notifications, but there is always room for improvement.

So wish me luck as I turn my phone on silent and check my phone when it’s the right time, sound like a plan?

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