Fighting

Glamour Magazine's "Are you normal about..?" page of the month discussed how normal women are about fighting. This series presents quick statistics to show readers how they fit in, and the information about women and the arguments in their relationships appalls me.

• 1. Avoiding conflict: only 9 percent of women express their anger to the person who triggered it. The rest stew silently.

THIS IS A PROBLEM. While confrontation is the issue at hand, this says something about women's confidence and self-esteem. If this fear of approach continues, confidence will be on a continuous decrease, leaving our daughters with no hope and always condescended. We must change this.

• 2. You should have five positive interactions for each fight with your partner, according to experts on happy relationships.

One in six exchanges with your significant other, or any friends for that matter should be a fight? Really?! I understand that this is healthy futuristically, but what would be more healthy is encouraging more positive interactions than five in six, or 83 percent. Think about that as you converse with your friends, family and significant others.

• 3. Twenty-one percent of women actually enjoy fighting at times.

Today's women are so competitive and always need to win, and fighting provides an outlet to get ahead in something. Can't get ahead in the workplace, in your relationships with some or at home? Argue and win something for some self-esteem. That's what this is saying. People enjoy the thrill of proving someone wrong, and being the more intelligent one in a situation. Shockingly so, 10 percent of women yell in fights and 56 percent cry.

Let's change these statistics. We can do this by being optimistic and positive with the people we are close to and interact with often, trying to be less competitive as difficult as it may be, and acting confrontational. Don't allow our society to be so fighting-oriented and argumentative that no decisions can be made.